Monday, May 27, 2013

Is this considered rude behavior or am I over-reacting? - Love Forum ...

Hi all. First off, I want to let you know I am probably being naive with relationships as I have not had a lot of experience but I wish to know if this is common that men say these things and I am over-reacting or if I am on the right track when I feel he is being very rude, etc.
And of course, I am going to keep this as anonymous as possible.

Thanks in advance for your input.

I have met this guy, around same age as me. We struck up a conversation right away as we share similar interests. I thought, ok, well, I'll give it a shot and so we went on a few dates. Nothing special - movies, dinner, the usual. I didn't sleep with him straight away-but after seeing each other, talking, texting, etc., we finally did. OK, no biggie.

That's the gist of it thus far.

Well, I have noticed lately (we've been going out for about 8 months now - though not 'officially' declared as bf/gf status) that when we talk he is often boastful, speaks of past girlfriends, such as "when so-and-so and I were dating...." or "my last girlfriend, a couple years ago..." (at this point I have lost count of how many alleged 'girlfriends he has had)

or he will say things like, "I don't know what they would do without me at work" or "I run circles around others when I am at work regarding computer knowledge"
Other things he has said to me, which are even more disturbing; One day he asked what I was up to and I told him and remarked that I was hungry and was thinking about going to get some fast food and a shake. (Mind you I am 5'4" and about 118 lbs) and he goes, "that's just your inner fatty trying to claw its way out"
He said it with a straight face. He as not joking around. Then he said to me, "well, I (meaning HIM) have gained weight, I can see my belly hanging over my belt, so does that make me less attractive to you"

Another instance he remarked that with his past relationships that he had some girls afraid to gain any weight because he said that he'd never be seen with someone who is fat or doesn't take care of themselves. And he laughed when he said that some past gf were afraid to even gain any weight.
He is constantly calling his co-workers 'lazy' or 'silly stupid people' and then when a co-worker abruptly quit work after being on maternity leave he said that he was glad she was gone and that people don't understand his stance on maternity leave - so I asked what IS his stance. His reply was that he feels it is the choice of the woman to have the child so either the woman should save up her time off or be able to be let go. It's not like cancer that just happens.

These are just a few comments that I can think of off top of my head that have perturbed me about him and I am now finding myself pulling back more and more - less contact with him because of what he has said.

And yes, for the record, I have called him out and questioned him on the things that he's said.

So am I being over-reactive to this or is just how some guys are?

I want to just cut it off and move on but I don't want to think I am being childish and over reacting either...need clarification, I guess.

Thanks.

**adorkableme

Source: http://www.loveforum.net/threads/81009-Is-this-considered-rude-behavior-or-am-I-over-reacting

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